When your self love levels are low you will find you are tired, irritable and snappy. You may be desperate for others attention and approval so constantly give too much and can’t say “No”. Or you may find you are judgmental and critical of everyone, including yourself. You may never feel good enough so fill your life with stimulants such as wine and caffeine or keep so busy that you have the excuse of having no time/energy/money for yourself.
I find many of my client’s symptoms are originating simply from a lack of self care and from prioritising money, work and other people over their own needs.
Self love is really just about being compassionate with yourself and looking for the good parts of yourself rather than constantly critiquing yourself and not feeling good enough. For most people this simply means treating yourself with the same respect and understanding that you would treat others. We can all do with some help in this department so here are a few suggestions to help. It is time for a self love revolution!
Affirmations, try repeating the following :
“I am allowed to be me and it feels right”.
“I am always doing my best and it is good enough”.
“I am kind, compassionate and understanding to myself as well as others”.
“I am worthy of love and consideration”.
” I love taking good care of myself”.
Practical tools for self love:
Have a haircut/manicure/facial
Go dancing
Spend time in nature
Play with a child or animal
Meditate
Start a gratitude journal
Have a massage/kinesiology balance
Make a vision board
Visit a friend
Exercise
Watch less TV and use less social media
Crystals to encourage self love and esteem:
Rose quartz
Turquoise
Rhodochrosite
Wear these mounted in jewelry or simply carry a stone in your pocket. Crystals can be placed under your pillow or by your bed. Don’t forget to cleanse them regularly. See my blog on crystal cleansing
Heart chakra:
The centre of your heart chakra vibrates at the same frequency as the colour pink. Wearing pink can help soften your energy field to become more loving and accepting of yourself. If you don’t want to wear pink then consider having a pink mug, toothbrush, flowers or a cushion in your home.
What if we took good care of ourselves first? How would this help our family? the world?
“If you really want peace on earth, create peace in your heart, in your being. That is the right place to begin with and then spread” Osho.